Building a connection with someone you like may seem intimidating, but it’s actually quite simple especially when you have classes and group assignments together.

First thing you should know: The term ‘opposites attract’ is not always the case! For instance, if you’re an introverted type and prefer a quiet life working on your assignments, perhaps dating a girl who likes to party till 3 a.m. isn’t such a good idea.

No matter how attractive, you’d want someone who would match your speed. You’re not the type to settle for just anybody and knowing what you want means that you have standards. And a guy with standards is very attractive!

Now let’s take a look at some of the things that you can do to build a meaningful connection and turn it into a possible relationship.

1. Work On Yourself

You’re here reading this, which can only mean that you are in search of answers to a question almost all men want to know: How do you get a girlfriend?

Before going out seeking a girlfriend, it’s crucial for you to understand and take care of yourself. Dive deep to find out what you want and what interests you, get out of your comfort zone, and rediscover yourself.

Confidence is attractive! Build your confidence and self-esteem by engaging in new pursuits such as learning a new skill, sport, or any other hobbies that interests you.

Another important factor you need to work on religiously is maintaining good hygiene. Regular showers, clean clothes, and a neat and tidy appearance go a long way.

Don’t forget to exercise on a regular basis. You don’t need to be perfect, but working on your personal growth can make you more confident, humble and attractive!

2. Build Your Life

You need to properly bake your cake before applying frosting. In this case, the cake is your life, and the frosting—your girlfriend! Having a girlfriend sweetens up your already sweet life, and both of you are able to reap and enjoy the taste of the fine delicacy.

If you have an uninteresting social life, a wearisome part-time job that you don’t even like, a GPA that keeps dropping, and a mess in your house, you can forget about having any girl at all.

Women admire men who take their lives seriously and also take care of themselves. It is probably the easiest way to attract a woman.

This might sound like a lot of hassle, but it is, for sure, the easiest thing you can do. You don’t need to get fancy cars, houses, or suitcases filled with money because girls actually don’t care about that (well, some don’t!).

To get a good, high-quality girlfriend, you need only have a clean home, a good social life, good hygiene, study well, and clean up after yourself.

Women simply want someone with whom they can curl up on the couch, eat junk food, and binge-watch movies all night.

3. Refine Your Social Skills

Your social skills can make or break a connection. Therefore, it is crucial to follow some rules when socializing, especially with someone you like.

  • Listen Actively: When you spark up a conversation with your crush, listen actively and pay attention to what she has to say. Showing genuine interest shows that you care, and women love that!
  • Communicate Clearly: Be honest and open about your intentions and feelings for her. This clears away the mist, builds trust and prevents any misunderstandings from taking place, now and in future. Building trust is important in a relationship and for that you should avoid mistakes that may become a potential threat to break it.
  • Respect Graciously: Respect other peoples’ boundaries and opinions. Give space and avoid overwhelming your crush with your feelings. If you try to break the ice with someone, and she, in turn, walks away, bow out respectfully and accept it. Treating people with respect shows you have standards, and that is a very appealing factor for a man.

4. Put Yourself Out There

You’re all done baking the cake, and now it’s time to get out there and find the love of your life – or the next best thing! There are a number of ways you can get back into the dating game:

  • The easiest way is to look for someone who interests you in your class. Make the first move and ask about the subject to start a conversation.
  • Ask friends or family members to set you up with someone who they may know to be single and looking for a good guy.
  • Browse dating apps and try your luck there. The bio on their profile can give you some clues for a conversation starter.
  • Reconnect with friends on social media or reach old ones. There must be someone whom you liked before, and maybe, just maybe, she is single? You never know unless you try.
  • Join groups in your area and connect with like-minded people.
  • You can check out the nightclubs (if you’re 18+) or coffee shops in your area and see if you can click with someone. Meeting new people can be a good thing, but you just might want to back off a little if it becomes creepy!
  • Make the first move. Try some funny and cheesy pick-up lines to get a conversation started. If she is a sport, she’ll reciprocate; if not, well, all you have to bear is an awkward glance.

5. Have Patience

When you go out to seek a girlfriend, patience is crucial. There’ll be a lot of tries before you get “the one.” So, don’t get discouraged if it’s not working out. The right one will come along when it’s time. In the meantime, continue your quest to find her.

On the other hand, if you do manage to find the right girl, maintaining a healthy relationship requires patience too. Communication is key! Be open, honest, and plan out your time together. Be in sync so that your relationship builds up your life and career together rather than destroying it.

To Wrap Up

Seeking a good relationship with someone isn’t easy, especially in college. Investing in yourself, exercising, practicing good hygiene, and improving social skills will not only build your confidence but can also provide you with a positive outlook on life.

Be your true self so you can attract someone who appreciates you for who you are. Be patient when maintaining a relationship. The journey isn’t easy, but the destination will be a worthy one.