Do you ever feel like your life is just stuck in a rut? You feel as though something is holding you back or at least preventing you from moving forward. Life feels like one big Groundhog Day, and you can’t seem to figure out how to do what’s best for you and how to make your life as fulfilling as possible, even if you’d really want too.

Don’t worry; you’re not alone. There are millions of people around the world who feel this way at least once in their lives, and there are millions of people who find a way through to the other side. In today’s article, we’re going to explore how you can figure out what’s holding you back; the first step to take in overcoming it.

Why Can’t I Just Move Forward?

Imagine you have a thorn in your foot. Every step you take is painful; that sharp, stabbing pain that’s typical with thorns. Over time, the thorn gets infected. There’s swelling, and it weeps, and still every step you take it as painful, if not more painful, than the last. Whether you just want to walk normally again or you want to run a marathon, you cannot do any of this until you figure out that it’s a thorn causing the problems.

If you’ve ever had a thorn or any kind of physical pain, you’ll know what’s it’s like to think about this pain all the time. It consumes your thinking, and it’s hard to focus on anything else. This is what it’s like to be in a rut in your life.

By taking the time to look at your foot and realise there’s a thorn in it, you can find it, pull it out, treat the wound, and get on with your life. Yet, just like a thorn, the longer you ignore your problems, the harder they will be to find. Once you realise what the thorn in your life is, you can start taking steps to overcome it, but it all starts with that process of acknowledging it.

How to Find Your Thorn

There are plenty of ways you can figure out your thorn. You can find out for yourself, some of the techniques of which we’ll go through below, or you can use professional help, like a finding someone with a life coach certification with unlimited training sessions to help. However, let’s look at some ways to get started.

Look at your excuses. When you want to something in your life, no matter how big or small that thing is, what excuses are you making? Excuses are limiting beliefs that stop you reaching your full potential, and identifying what your excuses are is a great way to figure out what kind of way your mind is working.

If your excuse, for example, is related to someone else, perhaps your partner or your parents, perhaps you have an issue with your relationship that you’re not letting go of. Past experiences and traumas leave scars within us that will stay open wounds unless you’re aware of them and can then heal them.


Any kind of resistance in your life will come from the idea of something you’re not letting go of. Either a past experience or a past pain is still affecting you, and you’ll need to identify what this is before you have any chance of moving forward from it while letting it go.