Is a close friend or a family member getting married? And have you been asked to be a bridesmaid? While it is a wonderful thing to be asked, it also involves several responsibilities.
Being a bridesmaid is definitely fun and exciting but you have to make sure that the bride has a great day and not a thing goes wrong. It is a great honor to be a bridesmaid and it means that the bride trusts you to take care of her on her big day.
So given below are a few things that you should keep in mind and they will help you be the best bridesmaid ever!
Pay attention to what the bride wants
It’s her special day and she deserves to have everything she wants. Brides usually have a lot of planning to do. They are very particular about their needs and want everything to be in line with that.
So, listen to her choices and support her decision. Do not constantly give her advice and if you have opinions about certain things, then approach her if you are completely sure and make sure that you buffer a negative response with a more positive tone.
Know what your duties are as a bridesmaid
There are specific tasks that you need to take care of as a bridesmaid. These include helping the bride pick the perfect dress (or support and appreciate her choice if she has already purchased a dress), helping her choose the perfect dress for all the bridesmaids and if you have a particular style in mind, then let her know. You could also assist her in choosing the right bridesmaid gifts.
Arranging for wedding favors and also keeping track of all the gifts so that the bride and groom can send thank you notes later are a few other tasks you need to assist a bride on. There will be a lot of pre-wedding events other than the bachelorette, like the rehearsal dinner, bridal showers and several pre-wedding parties and as a bridesmaid, it is your duty to make sure that all these are planned perfectly.
It is also your duty to assist the bride with her dress and makeup on the day of the wedding.
Coordinate and bond with the other bridesmaids
Create a list of all the tasks that you need to take care of and then talk to the other bridesmaids about dividing the work. There might be simple and rather mundane tasks like picking up the bride’s dress or making arrangements for a day at the salon just before the wedding and all these must be thoroughly planned.
Now, every one of you will have your work schedules, so deciding on who’s in charge of what beforehand, will save a lot of time. You might not know the other bridesmaids very well, but remember that they are important to the bride and it is extremely important that you forge a friendship with them so that everything goes off without any hassle.
Plan a great bachelorette and take care of the bride’s hotel room as well
The bride will be counting on all of you to plan a wonderful bachelorette party and as a bridesmaid, it is your responsibility to keep in mind all that she might want at the party. Select a theme that is close to her heart and decorate the venue accordingly.
Figure out if she wants a small party or a large, lavish event and then create the guest list. If the wedding is being held at a location away from home, then you will have to book rooms at a hotel as well.
At the end of the day, after the party, the bride will want to unwind and relax, so decorate her room and leave a comforting goodie basket with her favorite snacks and maybe some soothing bath salts and lotions.
Decide if you want to give a toast and prepare it properly
If you want to give a toast then plan it well. Giving a toast is very important and it needs to be perfect and pleasantly memorable. Don’t prepare a speech that is too long but stick to making it a short one, preferably under three minutes.
Make the speech personal and talk of your memories together. You can start off by saying how you met the bride and then share some humorous moments and add a few anecdotes. Make sure that the speech does not become embarrassing or awkward for the guests.
The Wrap Up
Being a bridesmaid is definitely all about responsibility. It is essential that you plan the things ahead, and keep the tips mentioned above in mind for a hassle-free experience!